我在这里呆了很长时间了。现在我想和你分享我的经验。感谢任何评论。
我大学毕业了。我的教育背景并不强。我的梦想是成为一名妻子。有一份工作（不难，但可以得到一些钱），并照顾我的家人。
十年前，我嫁给了一个对我非常好的男人。他很英俊，很温柔，而且非常可爱。我非常爱他。但他有点懒惰，而且不是很进取。
他在中国拥有硕士学位。但他并没有在事业上努力工作。我姐姐提醒我，事业对男人来说非常重要。如果他有事业，你的家庭在经济上会很好，一切都会好起来的。我无论如何都嫁给了他。
移民加拿大是他的想法。我们五年前在多伦多登陆。我马上找到了一份办公室工作。钱不多，但我们可以忍受。他的专业很难找到工作，而且他的英语不是很好。他很快就找到了一份劳工工作。当我发现他喜欢劳动时，我开始担心他。他说我喜欢它，因为我不必思考......我仍然相信他，并认为有一天，他会有一份体面的工作，我们会过上更好的生活。然后我们有了我们的儿子。生活已经改变了。我不能再去上班了。我开始呆在家里，做一个全职妈妈。有一天，我突然意识到我丈夫不可靠。如果我想要更好的生活，我必须自己努力！！我一直很懒。现在我不得不依靠自己。我对我丈夫非常生气。我恨他，因为他喜欢当工人。他不想写简历和找工作。他说他的专业没有市场。他没有发一份简历，甚至没有发一份......
我下定决心，我告诉自己不要再责怪他了，自己去做。我开始在业余时间学习课程。当我儿子3岁的时候。我把他送到了托儿所。与此同时，我获得了一所大学的证书。我找到了一份工作。我的工资比我丈夫高1倍。现在我仍然在业余时间学习课程。这对我来说并不容易。我必须工作，照顾我的儿子，做家务，照顾孩子......我丈夫，仍然在做劳工，没有帮我生一窝......
我低看他。懒惰，没有职业。我抱怨了很多。我有时很疯狂。我有时会用f字。我不再是女士了，我是一个疯狂的女人。
最近，他想回到大学去读文凭。但这是一个全日制课程。我不知道我是否应该支持他。因为我不再相信他了。他说我们不能全时学习，这太不行了。这就是我参加兼职课程的原因。但现在，他想做一个全职课程。如果我家里有人应该去上学，那就是我。因为我保证学习后会赚得更多。但是他，我不知道。他太懒了。我对他没有信心。难过吗？？
我会说，直到我爱他。他对我们很好，当我生气的时候，他只是很安静。但我后悔嫁给他。我和他在一起很累。如果我嫁给了另一个有事业的人呢？我最近经常想起我妹妹的话......
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I've been here for pretty long time. Now I would like to share you my experience. Thanks for any comments.
I graduated from college. My education background is not strong. My dream was to be a wife. Have a job ( not hard, but can get some money), and take care of my family.
Ten years ago, I married to a man who was very nice to me. He was handsome, gental, and very sweet. I loved him very much. But he was kind of lazy, and not very agressive.
He has master's degree in China. But he is not working hard on his career. My sister reminded me that career was very important to a man. If he had career, your family would be ok financially and everything would go well. I married him any way.
It's his idea to immigrate to Canada. we landed in toronto five years ago. I found an office job right away. Not much money, but we can live with it. He's major is very hard to get a job, plus his english is not very good. He soon found a labour job. I started to worry about him when I found that he enjoyed working as a labour. He said I like it because I did not have to think... I still believed in him and think one day, he would have a decent job and we would have a better life. Then we had our son. Life has changed. I can't go to work anymore. I started to stay at home and being a full time mommy. One day, Suddenly I realized that my husband was not dependable. If I wanted a better life, I had to work on it myself!! I've been very lazy. Now I had to depend on myself. I was so mad at my husband. I hated him because he liked being a labour. He did not want to work his resume and looking for job. He said there was no market for his major. He did not send one resume out, not even one...
I made my mind, and I told myself not to blame him anymore and work on it myself. I started to take courses in my spare time. When My son was 3 years old. I sent him to daycare. And same time, I got a certificate from a college. I got a job.My salary is 1 times higher than my husband. Now I am still taking courses in my spare time. Its not easy for me. I have to work, taking care of my son, doing housework, taking caurses... My husband, still working as a labour and did not help me out a litter...
I look down of him. Lazy and has no career. I complain a lot. I am being crazy sometimes. I use f words sometimes. I am not a lady anymore, I am a crazy woman.
Recently, he wanted to go back to college to get a deploma. But it's a full time course. I donot know if I should support him. Because I do not believe him anymore. He said we can't aford of full time study. That's why I take my course parttimely. but now ,he wanted to do a full time. If anyone in my family should go to school, that would be me. Because I garantee I would earn more after the study. But him, I do not know. He is too lazy. I do not have confidence on him. Is it sad??
I till love him i would say. He is kind to us, when I was mad, he was just being quite. But I regret to marry him. I am very tired with him. What if I married someone else who has career? I think about my sister's words very often recently....
